The Art of Forgetting

Can you find 1 single person who doesn't forget things?

Hell NO!!!

There is hardly one and I'm not an exception to it.

But in my case, forgetfulnes is much above average. Yes, i do forget things a lot and that too serious things which could change one's life.

For a normal 24 years boy who doesn't have much tension in life why should he forget.

Normally you forget things when there is some other things which preoccupies your mind.

But in my case I can't find that other thing. Maybe carelessness,absentmindedness can be a reason for my forgetfulness.

I heard from somebody that persons having A+ blood has a natural ability for absentmindedness.

well,this can be applicable for me.

I read in one of the texts that "People forgets things which he doesn't want to remember" but if that is the case then how can I forget my debit card in ATM counter where my entire savings were saved. What happpened was that after inserting the card and doing all the transactions the machine asked for "Do you want any more transactions?" I forgot to press No and left the ATM without taking back the card. The machine got hanged with the card inside.

After 2 days, when my father was searching for some other debit card i looked into my purse to find out that my debit card is missing. I couldn't recall the incident when and how did i lost my card. Luckily i found the transaction slip and went back to that ATM counter to look for it.

That ATM was out of service then also. I called the bank personnel and they made that ATM ok after removing my ATM card. 

Luckily there were nobody in queue after me who would enter that ATM and my entire savings will be gone.

Once I had gone for shopping with my om on scooter. On the way my scooter's petrol got empty and i stopped at the petrol pump for filling 3 litres of petrol. After filling the petrol and paying for the fuel,I started and got back home completely forgetting that I had taken my mom with me. 

On reaching home, I saw that the door is locked as because my mom has gone somewhere. I was in a hurry for going to meet a friend and seeing the door locked I became very angry. After waiting for 30 mins , I saw that my mom is returning in a rickshaw. 

I was very angry and asked my mom "Where have you gone locking the doors? Don't you know that I've to go to meet my friend?"

When my mom told where she has gone, i felt extremely embarassed.

This is the level of my forgetfulness. 

After 20 days leave, the 1st day I went to office after 15 days leave I almost forgot what i do there. 

It was a night shift for me. Person's doing night shifts have to lock the door and give the key to the security guards. 

I forgot that entirely and came out of office campus.

Next day my manager called me to inform and fire at me for forgetting to lock the door.

He told me "i had seen people locking the door and giving the key to the security guard but locking was not done properly and the door was open but not this sort of case where a person completely forgets to lock and give the key and the office remaining open fully"

I admitted my mistakes bravely. i was also feeling proud of the fact that i admitted my mistake inspite of feeling ashamed for my forgetfulness.

I was also hoping that from next time I would not be allowed to be in night shift after this big mistake which would be good for me. In a sence I was hoping to capitalize on my mistake. You can't make such mistake everyday. But I can....

After that day i became cautious. Next few days I was very cautious in locking the door and giving the key but on Sunday I committed the biggest mistake of my life.

No, it is not that I forgot to lock the door but I forgot to give the key to the security guard and rather take it home. For a 24*7 support center like us,Sunday is a working day for some people who wishes to take leave for going home later. I made it a holiday for them and for some exchanges who faced critical problems without our support. God knows what consequences will that bring.

Our manager is a sort of person who believes in “Learn from your mistakes” so I was not deprived of getting night shift again. But he doesn't like making mistakes, so he doesn't allow us to sent us to any sites and face the problems happening there. We may do some more mistake and increase the problem.

So life has become quite boring for me. There is not much work to do in office. Only entertainment is we go on outings in weekends. But we also do have limited holidays. We can't go far.

Few months ago,when we had 2 days holidays we went to Goa. There also my forgetful nature didn't leave me. In fact it marred all the enjoyments and ruined my entire trip.

Being excited seeing the water I didn't wanted to lose a second and rushed straight into the water without opening my specs. Then what was scheduled to happen happened. A big wave came and took my specs. Without my specs I m almost blind.

For a youth of this age being blind in Goa is like enjoying all the fun. I missed the beaches, the side scenes and everything.

Maybe God don't want me to go bad. That's why he took my specs.

It is not that I lost my own specs but I lost my friend's specs as well who had given me to keep it in safe custody.

After this my spec used to haunt me every now and then i open it. Be if for sleeping or whatever. I couldn't find my specs after getting up from my sleep. Once i was travelling in train. At night, I put my specs in my bag for sleeping. In the midnight when I woke up to check if all my luggages are intact, the 1st thing that was missing was my specs and without it everything was virtually missing. I take out everything from my bag where I had kept my specs but didn't find it. I was also afraid that I may be losing something else as well. But anyway, I continued searching. I packed and unpacked my bag thrice before I found my specs inside my biscuit packet.

In order to get rid of this boring life my friends suggested to make a girlfriend. But making girlfriend for a shy person like me is like an impossible task.

But yes I do have a girlfriend here, not the type as you are thinking but only a friend who is a girl and we met in Orkut only. I don't think what she thinks about me but I don't want to make any relationship with her. Our culture will simple not match. So I hardly call her. Maybe 1 time or even less a month.

On my birthday she called and wished me so it becomes a duty for me to wish her back on her birthday. But in this case also my forgetfulness nature came. I forgot her birthday. A person like me who doesn't be able to remember his parents birthday how can he remember others?

16 was her birthday. At that time I was at my native. On 15th I saw some update in orkut about her birthday. I thought that her birthday had already passed and wished her belated happy birthday. Next day I got her call. I again wished her belated birthday and asked her to forgive me for forgetting it. She told me “ going home you have forgotten everything, even the dates. Today is 16 and today itself is my birthday”. I felt embarrassed.

Forgetting umbrella is a very common among majority of the men but I am a exception here. I don't forget to take it . I take my umbrella and come back with someone's else umbrella.

Last day I was seeing one movie “Memento”, a movie to be remake by Amir Khan as “Gajani”. In it the hero has also this nature. He forgets things. In order to remember he writes down whatever he finds in front of him be it his hand, his body, any where. I'm also thinking of following this policy otherwise I don't know what will happen to me. I might be another victim of Alzheimer.

Or is it that I don't use my brain sufficiently. One of my sir used to say brain is like a knife. The more you rub more effective it will be.   Now i need some food for thought so that i can keep my brain properly functioning. But will that enhance my forgetful nature as i may be preoccupied by something else?